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A not for profit network of self-help websites.
Welcome to the newest site within the emotional
feelings network of sites!
nurture 101!
It's been too long in coming!
"You can judge a society by how they treat their weakest members."
Mahatma Gandhi
Welcome! I hope I can help you find what you're looking for! Anytime you see an underlined word in a different color you're being offered
an opportunity to learn more than what you came here for. It's important to understand the true meanings of your emotions and feelings as well as many other topics that are within this network. This entire network
is set up to help those who want to help themselves find a sense of peace in their lives - discover who resides within and
recover from whatever life has dealt you. Clicking on the underlined link words will open a new
window so whatever page you began on will remain waiting for you to get back to it!
If you can't find what you're looking for here, scroll down to see an
entire menu of what is offered within the emotional feelings network of sites!
kathleen
"Let's not forget that the little emotions are the great captains of our lives
and we obey them without realizing it."
~Vincent Van Gogh
I am absolutely sincere in my invitation to send me an e-mail. If you'd
like to vent - share your history - feel validated, make a new friend or just ask a question... I'm here and will always answer!
kathleen
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"It is important that you recognize your progress and take pride in your accomplishments. Share your achievements with others. Brag a little. The recognition and support of those around you is nurturing.”
Rosemarie Rosetti
"Talents are best nurtured in solitude, but character
is best formed in the stormy billows of the world”
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
wild colors? It's about life being colorful. It's about our emotions and feelings adding color to our lives. It's about thinking
in colorful hues instead of just black and white thinking.
don't like them?
Click the link below and send me an e-mail to
tell me so!
Need information concerning mental health issues? These two sites might be what you're looking for!
Sites addressing Mental Health issues:
anxieties
101
This website was actually the original website of the entire network.
It was designed to show how our mental health can affect all of us - no matter what gender or what age. It also shows how
our lifestyle factors affect our mental health.
Pages within anxieties 101 are:
about anxieties
101
about mental illness
my own personal
inventory: an exercise in studying one's past
generalized and
social anxiety
panic disorder
phobias
obsessive compulsive
disorder
post traumatic stress
disorder
depression
how it all works:
a glossary of mental health words, explanations of how the brain works, chemicals in the brain, stigma of mental illness,
etc.
children and mental
illness
teenagers and mental
illness
young adults and
mental illness
women and mental
illness
men and mental illness
seniors citizens
and mental illness
lifestyle diet
lifestyle exercise
lifestyle sleep
lifestyle relaxation
lifestyle counseling
lifestyle medications
disasters
sub-pages:
bipolar disorder
phobia list
affective or mood
disorders
sleep disorders
in children
children and parenting
hormonal problems
with women and mental health
physical illnesses
to watch for
trauma
my personal dealings
with post traumatic stress disorder
anxieties
102
A carbon
copy site of anxieties 101 - just more information.
"Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences
are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible - the kind of atmosphere that is found
in a nurturing family”
Virginia Satir
try recovering 101
This site describes a personal growth recovery journey
and the questions you might have.
the homepage
what is this site about? why bother? what is recovery? how can it help me?
what is the emotional feelings network of sites? it's one person's recovery story - shared
with you!
how to use the network for all you stubborn, hard headed people, like I used to be!
how it all comes together
it's all about you learning to love you!
"Next to reasoning, the greatest handicap to the optimum development of Man lies
in the fact that this planet is just barely habitable. Its minimum temperatures are too low, and its maximum temperatures
too high. Its day is not long enough, and its night is too long. The disposition of its water and earth is distinctly unfortunate
(the existence of the Mediterranean Sea in the place where we find it is perhaps the unhappiest
accident in the whole firmament).
These factors encourage depression, fear, war, and lack of vitality. They describe a planet, which is by no means perfectly devised for the nurturing or for the perpetuation of a higher intelligence.”
James Thurber
the self pages
The self pages started out because I found the need to learn more about
myself in my personal growth recovery journey. This site speaks to "self" emotions and feelings; for example - self acceptance
and self confident. It's important that we learn as much as possible about our own selves as we can't move forward in personal growth and recovery until we've
faced our own self. Check it out. The following pages are available on this site!
the self pages -
the homepage
the self
selfless
self absorbed
self acceptance
self actualization
self affirmation
self blaming
self care
self centered
self concept
self confident
self consciousness
self contentment
self control
self critical
self deceptive
self defeating
self defense
self destructive
self development
self disclosure
self discovery
self doubt
self esteem
self examination
self forgiveness
self growth
self hatred
self harm - self
injury
self healing
self help
self image
self image
self improvement
self induced
self judgment
self indulgent
self liberated
self loathing
self love
self motivated
self protective
self punishment
self reinforcement
self responsibility
self sabotage
self soothing
self suppression
self supportive
self talk
self victimization self worth
"First you need only look: Notice and honor the radiance of Everything about
you... Play in this universe. Tend All these shining things around you: The smallest plant, the creatures and objects in your
care. Be gentle and nurture. Listen...”
Anne Hillman
abuse 101
Abuse and domestic violence were once included in the original site website I designed - anxiety understanding - but had to be taken out when anxieties 101 became
a reality. It was important to me to include this in information pertaining to mental health because I personally lived in domestic violence my entire
life, but had never known about mental illness.
Even after visiting
the emergency room almost everyday for one year, no one ever told me I might be experiencing an anxiety or panic attack. I
had several endoscopic procedures and saw specialists regularly, even took Percocet while pregnant to control my chest pain
because the specialists didn't understand what was causing me the unbearable pain.
I was finally diagnosed
with post traumatic stress disorder, depression and an eating disorder. I firmly assert that all victims of abuse and domestic
violence need to engage in a mental health assessment when entering shelters, as well as their children. If mental health
was a priority, perhaps it wouldn't take women so long to leave their abusive husband, partners, parents, or whoever instead
of it taking up to seven times of leaving the abusive situation to finally leave for good.
The following pages
are found on the abuse 101 website:
the homepage
if you are being
abused now
about abuse
about control
about abuse of power
intimidation
manipulation
about abusive people
survival behaviors
emotional abuse
child abuse
bullies - both childhood
and adult
teen dating violence
elder abuse
verbal abuse
physical abuse
sexual abuse
spiritual abuse
financial abuse
narcissistic abuse
abuse at work
domestic violence
basics
coping mechanisms
domestic violence
shelters
leaving an abusive
relationship
abusive women
resources
once abused
if your abuser is
a cop
if your abuser is
your parent
"Never idealize others. They will never live up to your expectations. Don't over-analyze
your relationships. Stop playing games. A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness.”
Leo F. Buscaglia
night eating
Welcome! Once again,
I had to personally include eating and sleeping disorders in my own personal growth recovery journey so a website emerged
concerning them all. I personally have dealt with night eating syndrome, an eating/sleeping disorder most of my life. I moderate
a support group for night eaters, visit the site by clicking the above link to join the group. You'll see the link on every
page to join.
Eating disorders,
mental health, abuse, domestic violence are all connected. This was a very difficult part of my recovery. Although I beat
eating at night, my sleep remains disordered and my eating habits are still not as healthy and consistent as they need to
be.
To learn more about
the site, just click on the link above! Here are the pages included within the night eating website:
the homepage
night eating...
what is it?
what's your relationship
with yourself like?
eating disorders
obesity
abuse and trauma
still searching?
click here
about sleeping
sleep disorders
emotions and feelings
are you mindful
and aware?
anxiety disorders
the latest scoop
take my survey
how it all works
where does all your
energy go?
my personal story
nobody's perfect
lifestyle diet
dieting?
lifestyle exercise
lifestyle sleep
you are a valuable
person
lifestyle relaxation
lifestyle counseling
and medications
words of encouragement
"Everyone has a talent. What is rare is the courage to nurture
it in solitude and to follow the talent to the dark places where it leads.”
author unknown
changes
Both changes websites have the same pages, although changes 2 has more up to date information!
The following pages are found in the changes sites!
the homepage
gimme contact
gimme goals
gimme a plan
gimme no hang ups!
lifestyle diet
protein
carbs
fruits
vegetables
fats
sweets
marvelous miscellany
lifestyle exercise
exercise defeat
aerobics
cycling
endurance training
gardening
hiking
isometrics
pilates
rowing
running
strength training
stretching
swimming
tai chi
walking
water aerobics
yoga
lifestyle sleep
lifestyle relaxation
aromatherapy
massage
meditation
relaxation breathing
relaxation techniques
lifestyle counseling
accupuncture
behavioral counseling
method
cognitive behavioral
counseling method
electroconvulsive
therapy
group therapy
interpersonal therapy
lifestyle medications
emotions and feelings
lifestyle quit smoking
volunteering
relationships
There are more hidden pages within the site for each topic listed!
“We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't
just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it.
You've got to really look after it and nurture it.”
John Lennon
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"Each relationship nurtures a strength or weakness
within you.”
Mike Murdock
the layer
down under
I thought
of the name for the next few sites because throughout my personal growth recovery journey it seemed that I was unpeeling the
layers within to find more things to discover and figure out within my own self. So as you go through this site - you'll find
the second stage of what I found was needed for a personal growth recovery journey and as you visit the next few layer down
under sites, you'll see how you are peeling back the layers of time in your own journey as well!
the homepage
addictions:
covers three pages
including alcohol, drugs, smoking, gambling, sex, the Internet, prescription medications, shopping and more!
attention to attitude
extracting beliefs:
where did your belief system come from?
befriending your
body image
boundaries
accepting change
examining emotions:
and emotional intelligence - what is that?
expectations
feelings - our messengers
humor
insight
inspiration
intentions - do
they matter?
investigating intuition
what is "letting
go"
suggesting learning
listening skills
mingling in mindfulness
opinions - what's
yours?
living in the present
moment
reflection
explaining risk
taking
spirituality
stress - it's truly
a problem
thoughts, thought
process, and thinking - 3 whole pages of information!
"Be careful what you water your dreams with. Water them with worry and fear and
you will produce weeds that choke the life from your dream. Water them with optimism and solutions and you will cultivate
success. Always be on the lookout for ways to turn a problem into an opportunity for success. Always be on the lookout for
ways to nurture your dream.”
Lao Tzu
the layer down under that
the homepage
about the layer
down under experience
looking within -
thoughts and feelings about whose fault things are
looking within -
am i an abuser?
looking within -
am i someone who abandons others?
consistency - learn
about it and use it!
about suicide -
it's a shame
coping mechanisms
circumstances
communication skills
- 2 pages of info
personality and
temperament
family dysfunction
the homepage
addictions
beliefs
intuition
resistance
change
emotions
expectations
feelings
body image
listening skills
"One of the greatest titles we can have is "old friend". We never appreciate
how important old friends are until we are older. The problem is we need to start our old friendships when we
are young.
We then have to nurture and grow those friendships
over our middle age when a busy life and changing geographies can cause us to neglect those friends. Today is the day to invest
in those people we hope will call us 'old friend" in the years to come.”
Grant Fairley
different
religions
Throughout my personal growth and recovery journey I've had to become
very truthful with myself concerning how my religious beliefs swayed my thinking throughout my difficult past. Defining our
own personal religious beliefs, I believe, is something very important instead of just adopting the beliefs of our parents. Take a peek and see if anything touches you!
the homepage
about this site
my first religion
believing in God
Sharing your Story
recovery - does
religion help in recovery?
spirituality
different religions
why is religion
important to us?
domestic violence
and religion
did you ever join
a cult? was it spiritual abuse?
do they really care
about you at church?
getting informed
practices, traditions,
and service work
bible talk
youth and religion
these days ask me!
"He who nurtures benevolence for all creatures
within his heart overcomes all difficulties and will be the recipient of all types of riches at every step.”
Chanakya
children
101
In keeping with my original theme in anxieties 101 - I wanted to take
the gender/age groups a step further with their own personal sites. Information concerning children is of the utmost importance
since children don't come with how to manuals when they are born; I feel it's important to look at our own upbringings, realize the results of the parenting practices of our parents and then teach ourselves what
different parenting skills are needed to raise emotionally and physically healthy kids!
the homepage
mental health issues
facing children
Mental Health: In
the womb and the first year of life
Mental Health: Two,
Three and Four for more!
Mental Health: The
Elementary School Child
Mental Health: The
Chaos Begins! Almost teens!
(Teens have their own site)
Emotions and Feelings
Attachment
Temperament
Just Love 'Em -
What children need
Children and Fear
Children and Anger
Children and Control
Power Struggles
How to Communicate
Limits and Boundaries
Self Esteem
Dealing with Bullies
Discipline
Character and Values
Social Skills
Children and Friendships
Children need Extended
Family
Lifestyle Factors
- diet, exercise, sleep, relaxation
Children and Responsibilities
School and Education
Sex Education
Spirituality
Gifted Children
Children with Special
Needs
Children with Special
Problems
Children and Stress
Abuse and Neglect
Dysfunctional family
life
Children and Divorce
Parenting Tips
Adoption
Same Sex Parenting
Step Families
Foster Homes
No Kids, be a mentor!
When Kids Self Medicate
When a Parent Dies
When a Sibling Dies
Children and Trauma
There's more information here, some pages aren't completed, but as always - this network is a work in progress
- a personal challenge that is included in my own personal growth recovery journey! I do the best I can to help as many people and address as many topics as possible!
"The very greatest things - great thoughts, discoveries, inventions - have usually
been nurtured in hardship, often pondered over in sorrow, and at length established with
difficulty.”
Samuel Smiles
teenscene
has been undergoing some changes, but pay it a visit and recommend it to a teen you know!
you've
found teenscene
about
understanding
facts
anxiety
disorders
panic
disorders
phobias
post
traumatic stress disorder
obsessive
compulsive disorder
depression
how
it works
her
diet
his
diet
her
exercise
his
exercise
she's
sleeping
he's
sleeping
her
relaxation
dear
kat
his
down time
counseling
medications
emotions
and feelings
values
- what does that word mean to you
learning
how to communicate
her
choices
his
choices
her
relationships
his
relationships
her
creativity
his
creativity
school
- what's up with that?
tolerance
in diversity
running
away
no
one cares about me!
I certainly believe that being in contact with one's spirit and nurturing one's spirit is as important as nurturing one's body and mind.
Laurence Fishburne
angels and princesses is the teen girls site that is breaking off from teenscene! There's just
too much info for girls and guys to be included in one site and not enough space! It's still a work in progress but check
it out!
welcome
homepage
why visit?
who are you?
a girlz gotta diet!
a girlz gotta workout!
beauty sleep
self pampering
her choices
her relationships
do you have an attitude?
her family life
her spirituality
her creativity
her favorite things
Looking back, I
realize that nurturing curiosity and the instinct to seek solutions are perhaps the most
important contributions education can make.
Paul Berg
parental
alienation is a trend that's fast becoming too common in divorce and custody fights. I experienced this some years
back and I pray that it never happens again to anyone else. It's horrifying!
homepage
a typical divorce
parental alienation
PAS parental alienation syndrome
the part of the children
the alienator
the alienated
emotional abuse
my personal story
resources
sources
I come from a great family.
I've seen family life and I know how wonderful, how nurturing, and how wonderful it can
be.
Sidney Poitier
Realizing that the mind/body
connection can't be ignored I figured one day that it was time to open up a site that dealt with that very connection. This
site while still in the building stages - offers you - when possible - a direct connection from the emotional part of you
to the physical part of you. It's connected. Get with the program and see how important it is to be aware of this!
the homepage
about this site
lifestyle factors and your physical health
exercise and your physical health
Blood Pressure
the heart
women and their heart
men and their heart
heart disease
treatment for heart disease and heart attack
how emotions and feelings affect physical health
diabetes
your kidneys
stroke
respiratory system
asthma
the glossary
drugs these days
cattle prodding... the tests they have to do
illnesses and the emotions and feelings they produce
the immune system
then there's cancer
men and cancer
women and cancer
cancer and your mind
cancer and your lifestyle factors
living in chronic pain
osteoporosis
arthritis
the nervous system
nerve disorders
Alzheimer's and dementia
Please be patient as these pages take time to fill up!
I was absolutely
drawn to this painted picture that was painted in an art therapy program. If you are an artist or just like dabbling - I have
about 30 websites within the network that need to have pictures added to them. I would like to extend an invitation to those
who are able to paint, take a photo and send me a copy so I can add your artwork to the network somewhere.
If your artwork
belongs in a certain category or with a certain emotion or feeling - I'd love to add it to that page! You can send me an e-mail
anytime with your photos and directives. If you have a story to share about your personal growth recovery journey - I would
be honored to read it and if you feel as though you can share it - I would love to add it with your artwork!
Happiness.... kathleen
“Management is about arranging and telling. Leadership is
about nurturing and enhancing.”
Thomas J. Peters |
As you explore through the lists of emotions and feelings on the right...
Remember that
when you are thinking about who you are now, check out the emotions and feelings that you may be experiencing. When you think
about who you would like to become... check out the emotions and feelings you would like to experience!
by Hannah Sullivan
...I once told a group of environmental activists,
"You can save a forest today, but if we don't raise children consciously, it will be cut down tomorrow." From this perspective
we see that the well being of children sits at the root of every endeavour. With out happy, healthy children, we have no forest,
no peace, and no world.
A powerful body of research grounded in the fields
of neuroscience, psychology, biology and genetics points us towards the importance of the early years and how bonding, or the lack of it, dictates a child's sense of his relationship to the world and himself. We as parents literally have in
our hands, the ability to create a violent culture or a peaceful one.
(* Ecologist and Editor of
Kindred magazine, one of the world's most endorsed parenting journals, Kali Wendorf is a passionate advocate of social change;
particularly as it relates to the role of parents in our society. She feels that any movement to address any of our society's
woes, including climate change or environmental degradation, is pointless unless the importance of bonding between the child and parents is addressed and acknowledged in public policy: "Because sustainability begins at conception."
She lives in Mullumbimby, Australia with her family.)
Kindred Magazine, Vol. 9 March, 2004 "Our Child, Not Mine
Ending the parent blame-game"
Nurturing Friendship in Marriage
Good marriages may seem rare
these days, but a leading marriage expert says it’s not complicated - or even necessarily difficult-to make a marriage
last. Friendship, says John Gottman, is at the core of a strong marriage. Friendship between couples means they “know each other intimately” and “are well versed in each other’s likes, dislikes, personality quirks, hopes and dreams,” Gottman
says in his book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (published by Crown).
Based on twenty-five years
of research, The Seven Principles also says couples in good marriages “have an abiding regard for each other,”
express this esteem in many ways large and small, respect each other, and enjoy one another’s company. Gottman has also found that the quality of a married couple’s friendship
is the most important predictor of satisfaction with sex, romance, and passion.
It’s Not Complicated
Gottman believes the principles
that make a marriage work are “surprisingly simple.” Happily married couples aren’t smarter or more beautiful than others, and they don’t live in castles in the clouds where there’s
no conflict or negative feelings.
They’ve simply learned
to let their positive feelings about each other override their negative ones. They understand, honor, and respect each other. They know each other deeply and enjoy being together. They do little things every day to stay connected and to show each other they care. In short, they are friends.
As simple as it sounds, happy marriages are based on a foundation of friendship.
A Case Study
Take the case of Andrew, a
surgeon who works long hours at the hospital and is frequently on call, and his wife, Julie, who is a school principal. Instead
of letting their strenuous schedules become a relationship roadblock, Andrew and Julie have found ways to keep their friendship
strong.
If she has an important meeting, he remembers to call home and see how it went. If he’s working late, she brings his dinner to the hospital
because she knows that he hates hospital food. When he orders pizza for the family, he includes a side of garlic bread because he knows it’s Julie’s
favorite. Even though she prefers romantic comedies, she went to “Star Wars” with him because she knows he loves
sci-fi. Even though he’s not religious, he goes to church with the family because it’s important to her.
Andrew and Julie are maintaining
the friendship that fuels their love. Because their friendship is strong, they are more likely to have positive feelings about each other and their marriage. They are more likely to experience what
Gottman calls “positive sentiment override,” where their good feelings about each other are so strong that they eclipse negative ones. Besides making their marriage more fulfilling and more romantic, Andrew and Julie’s
focus on the positive in each other protects them when negative feelings about each other come up. It’s easier for them
to shrug off the small but inevitable disagreements of married life.
On the other hand, when a
couple lets the friendship in their marriage decline, negative feelings can more easily cause minor issues to erupt into major, relationship-threatening conflicts. For a couple like Andrew and Julie, it will take a much more serious issue to upset their relationship.
Practical Ideas
If you want to strengthen
your marriage at its core, build the friendship between you and your spouse. Practical ideas for doing this include:
Know your spouse well.
How well do you know each other? To find out, take the following quiz, adapted from Gottman’s book. Answer each question
True or False.
- I can name my partner’s best friends.
- I know what stresses my partner currently faces.
- I know the names of those who have been irritating my partner lately.
- I know some of my partner’s life dreams.
- I am very familiar with my partner’s religious beliefs.
- I can outline my partner’s basic philosophy of life.
- I can list the relatives my partner likes least.
- I know my partner’s favorite music.
- I can list my partner’s favorite three movies.
- I know the most stressful thing that happened to my partner in childhood.
- I can list my partner’s major aspirations.
- I know what my partner would do if he/she won a million dollars.
- I can relate in detail my first impressions of my partner.
- I ask my partner about his/her world periodically.
- I feel my partner knows me fairly well.
If you answered “true”
to more than half of the items, your friendship with your spouse is an area of strength in your marriage. You know what makes your partner tick. If you didn’t do so well, plan now to get to know your spouse better and become better friends. Like all worthwhile goals, you’ll need to make building
the friendship in your marriage a high priority, and you’ll need to plan specific ways you will act differently.
Practice “positive sentiment override.” It’s easy for marriage partners to become experts at identifying the negative traits
of the other person and ignore or minimize the positive ones. Negative sentiment is powerful and destructive to marriage. Research shows that to build a
happy marriage, couples need a ratio of at least 5 positive interactions for every negative one.
Here’s a way to increase
the positive interactions: First, make a list all of the things you admire and appreciate about your spouse. One husband wrote, “She helps me solve work problems.” A wife wrote, “He scratches my
back even when he’s tired.”
From this list, choose two
or three qualities and rehearse them in your mind. The next time you’re tempted to focus on your husband or wife’s
weaknesses, override the temptation by focusing on the positive qualities you chose.
Catch your spouse doing
good. Notice the kind and generous things your spouse does and express gratitude for them. Some spouses leave notes in a briefcase or purse. One spouse wrote,
“Thanks for listening to me gripe last night-it made all the difference in my outlook today.”
Have a friendly conversation. Regularly find a quiet, uninterrupted time to talk as friends. Take turns
picking topics that interest you. Consider some of the following subjects: your family of origin, personal goals or dreams or aspirations, a recent book or movie, current events such as sports or politics.
Hold a life story interview.
Interview your partner about his or her life story. Good interviewers ask penetrating questions and listen intently. Try to draw out one another as you share together as friends.
Attend to the little
things that show love and friendship. Regularly do things that build love and friendship, such as spending time together, giving gifts, serving one another, offering encouragement, and being affectionate.
Additional Readings:
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work By John Gottman
Fighting for Your Marriage by Howard Markman, Scott Stanley, and Susan Blumberg.
Additional Websites
Arkansas Cooperative Extension Service Website - The Marriage Garden http://www.arfamilies.org/family_life/marriage/default.htm
source site: click here
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"i've just gotta say it!"
July 2009
by Kathleen Howe
I'm sorry I've been so busy this month I don't have time to
complete this column.. Come back next month though!
I wrote this article for newsvine and decided I couldn't put
it off here within the network any longer!
What This Nation Needs Is Nurture
by Kathleen Howe
Oprah has done it again -
an unfortunate weight fluctuation of forty pounds has forced photos of her behind to cover not only the tabloids, but our
television screens as well. Those of us who watch the Today Show have noticed that Al Roker looks like he needs another gastric
bypass surgery; his weight has really gone up and I think more than forty pounds. We all know - it doesn't work that way with
gastric bypass surgery though. Why do these people get so much attention concerning their weight and why can't they keep the
weight off?
Ricki Lake claims she'll never
get that big again, but will she? Really? Who believes her? Star Jones? Will she get that big again in light of the fact that
she too, had gastric bypass surgery and may have never dealt with the original problem that was causing her to partake in
the addiction of food? We've all been educated concerning Dr. Phil's theory on finding your authentic self, and recently he's
come out with a new book that will be a best seller that deals with what you do after experiencing a life shattering moment.
Why hasn't Oprah followed her Golden Boy's advice? And Al Roker? It has been hinted upon that there are underlying father
issues there - is he working too hard to pay attention to nurturing himself?
My therapist has agreed with
me that my life experiences could be portrayed daily for over a month on the Dr. Phil show and we still might not have addressed
all of my traumas, crisis, abusive and dysfunctional relationships. But the same thing that keeps me losing and gaining weight
is the same thing that causes Oprah, Al and even Ricki Lake the up and down weight problems - the lack of nurture in our lives. I've spent the past seven years of my life helping others - nurturing
others - day in and day out - but I have forgotten to be nurturing to myself.
The lack
of nurture in the lives of all Americans has only bred negativity, greediness, dysfunctional family relationships,
corrupt political currents, pessimism, war, unethical business practices, illegal medical practices - you name it within the
American public and the leaders of the same great nation. The earth is suffering - as well animals, plant life, and the atmosphere.
The world subscribes to allowing hunger, genocide and poverty to continue to run rampant over learning how to be nurturing.
Power, money, greed, addiction
and no nurture. There are millions of people with depression in this country and no one
wants to address the reason for it. I myself, went back to my therapist and told her what had been transpiring in my life
over the past three years since my last visit and within twenty minutes she put up her hand and yelled, "STOP!" She knew the
answer - "You haven't received an ounce of nurture in three years since I saw you. What
do you expect? Does anyone feel good about anything if they don't experience any nurturing
in their lives?"
This caused me to think about
the whole situation - the world as we know it. We've seen a few people, a very small number of actors and actresses that have
decided to be nurturing throughout the world and within their private lives. Brad Pitt and
Angie have not only formed a family through the normal reproductive means, but through adoption. They've consumed their lives
with helping others. They've come out of themselves and used their well earned monies to help other people - unconditional love towards other - is that nurturing?
The dictionary says this about nurturing.
nurture
verb.
- to feed and protect: to nurture
one's offspring
- to support and encourage, as during the period of training or development; foster: to nurture promising musicians.
- to bring up; train; educate.
noun
- rearing, upbringing, training, education, or the like.
- development: the nurture of
young artists
- something that nourishes; nourishment; food.
Synonyms: These verbs mean
to promote and sustain the growth and development of: nurturing hopes; cultivating tolerance;
foster friendly relations; nursed the fledgling business.
I've listened closely as Brad
Pitt has talked about the way his project in New Orleans has been run and I'm actually very impressed with the way it has
been run. Oprah opened a school, which was a lifetime dream and had to deal with the unfortunate trigger when abusive practices
were found out - perhaps that situation spurned her weight gain? But the point here is - we must all take care of ourselves
first. If we weren't nurtured properly as children we must fight our demons, educate ourselves,
thoroughly understand what we missed and re-parent ourselves.
We must learn how to nurture our children and it's never too late to do it! We can nurture
our adult children just as we need to nurture ourselves. We can apologize to our adult children
for not knowing better, for being ignorant, and get with the program to tell them what we have learned in learning to nurture ourselves. It's essential. Oprah, Al and the rest of you out there - get with the self
nurturing and you'll find there's a difference in your life.
I was reading, "The Art and
Science of Raising Healthy Children; by Stephen J. Bavolek, Ph.D; click on the link below click here - or type it into your browser! It's a quick little article about parenting. Here's part of it that's crucial to know about!
Technically, parenting is
a process of interactions designed to nourish, protect, and guide a new life through the course of its development. The parenting
process begins at the creation of the new individual and continues to be practiced throughout a lifetime in varying degrees
of intensity. The process of parenting entails four main tasks:
1. To foster physical and mental health.
2. To provide emotional warmth and nurturance.
3. To provide opportunities for the development of individuality
and intellect.
4. To facilitate social and emotional competence.
When these tasks are carried
out in the context of a strong emotional tie with a caretaker who stimulates a positive view of other people and the world,
children have the opportunity to develop their own individual potentials to the fullest extent. When the tie between the caregiver
and child is not established or is strained, children and parents alike will face trying times.
Mr. Bavolek continues to talk
about in his article that there are some guidelines that parents must follow when parenting their children. I know that most
of us, the Baby Boomers, never had the opportunity to experience the importance of learning these factions. Our parents weren't equipped to parent us just as their parents weren't equipped to parent them.
It's been a huge chain reaction of trial and error with lots of errors giving us the social dilemma we're experiencing today!
The rotten economy is no more
than a rotten social dilemma! If we had some nurtured business leaders out there in the
business world that actually wanted to nurture their employees and their business partners
- things would be courageously different! Things have been falling apart for generations. There's no loyalty, pride or ethics
in business anymore.
This nation needs to stop
worrying about what Oprah is going to do next with her forty pound weight gain. What needs to be done is a re-educating process
for all Americans. We need to learn what nurture is. We need role models like Brad Pitt and his wife. Oprah would be a better
role model if she just took the time to nurture herself. I'm finding that this is what my
problem has been after a seven year personal growth recovery journey. I thought of everything but nurture.
I agree with these building
blocks of parenting that need to be addressed.
The Building Blocks of the Parenting Process Bonding
and Attachment Empathy Self-Awareness Touch Discipline Unconditional Love, Honesty, and Respect Knowledge
of Development
I also have realized that
those of us who weren't parented with these factors in mind, need to spend some serious time learning more about them, reflect
upon our own pasts and childhoods and understand where things might have been different for us if we had been so educated. Just understanding that our parents didn't have a clue about these important life factors helps us to understand that it wasn't quite as "personal" as it has felt to us.
Although those of us who have
experienced abuse, trauma crisis and other uncontrollable situations; we still need to study these things, understand them and re-parent our own children and learn how we can nurture ourselves. Not only do
we need to nurture ourselves, but after understanding it all and experiencing success with self nurturing we need to reach out to our communities
and the world to make changes through nurturing others.
Perhaps a nurtured world would be less threatening and painful. My son told me that all he wanted for Christmas was
"world peace;" and now I have something to discuss with him. I can teach him what I didn't know when he was a little boy - nurturing him as an adult, showing him how he can nurture himself
and then how nurturing others is a step towards the World Peace he so desperately hopes for.
So, "i just gotta
say it!" take this information seriously and study it. Address the nurturing
problems you have with yourself, your family and in your life in other areas. It's incredible that you can learn and learn
and learn and understand and understand - (which has been my motto - educate - understand - and change) but if you don't nurture yourself, you won't have
the energy to make the changes.
You need to re-gain your
power as I've stated on the abuse site. You need to re-gain control in your life. And you need to be strong! Finally I added
the word "strong" to a website! You must get strong so you can make the changes you need to make.
Work with me folks! Send me an e-mail after you've looked around here and see if nurturing doesn't change your life just a teeny tiny bit!
I understand that you are in a hurry to find what you need to know. I'll keep it short on this page and explain more about me on
"my personal story" page!
If you still can't
find what you need to know and you would like help finding it, please click on the provided e-mail links to send me an e-mail with what you're searching for. This network of sites is extremely special to me. I'm here if you just need to vent - if
you need a shoulder to lean on - a friend - or just a sounding board for whatever you need to say. I'm almost always here.
Feel free to e-mail me anytime. I was once where you are and I know exactly how it feels.
kathleen
Emotion and Feeling Sites
emotional feelings
This website is the HOMEPAGE for the entire network of over 30 websites!
At the emotional
feelings site you will find the following information:
My personal story: A brief description of who I am and why I offer this network
of sites. Read my monthly column, "i just gotta say it!" on this page as well!
Keeping In
Touch: Additional information with current articles and bits of information that you can ponder upon.
The following emotion and feeling words are located at this website:
feeling abandoned
feeling absorbed
feeling abused
feeling accepted
feeling of accomplishment
feeling accountable
feeling acknowledged
feeling admiration
or feeling admired
feeling affectionate
feeling affirmed
feeling afraid
feeling aggravated
feeling aggressive
feeling agitated
feeling in agony
or agonized
feeling alienated
feeling alone
feeling ambivalent
feeling angry
feeling annoyed
feeling antagonistic
feeling anticipation
feeling anxious
or anxiety
feeling apathetic
feeling apologetic
feeling appreciated
feeling apprehensive
feeling arrogant
or feelings of arrogance
feeling ashamed
feeling assertive
feeling attached
feeling attentive
feeling available
feeling avoidance
feeling aware
feeling awkward
When learning about your emotions and feelings, be sure to visit the emotion
and feeling pages for the emotions and feelings that you would like to feel and know more about as well as the ones you are
presently feeling.
more-emotional
feelings
This site adds a few extra emotions and feelings beginning with the letter
"a" like emotional feelings has; as well as a continuation of some of the same emotions and feelings as the home site!
The following feeling and emotions words are presently within this website:
feeling abandoned
feeling able
feeling abused
feeling accepted
feeling adequate
feeling afraid
feeling agreeable
feeling altruistic
feeling amiable
feeling amused
feeling angered
feeling anguished
feeling animated
feeling apologetic
feeling assured
feeling audacious
feeling available
feeling avoidance
feeling aware
emotional
feelings, 3
This website contains the emotion and
feelings words beginning with the letter,
"b."
feeling badgered
feeling balanced
feeling battered
feeling belittled
feeling belligerent
feeling belonging
feeling benevolence
feeling berated
feeling betrayed
feeling bewildered
feeling bigotry
feeling bitter
feeling blamed
feeling bored
feeling brave
feeling broken
feeling burdened
emotional
feelings, 2
This website contains the emotion and
feelings words beginning with the letter, "c."
feeling calm
feeling capable
feeling cared for
feeling carefree
feeling careless
feeling cautious
feeling centered
feeling challenged
feeling cheerful
feeling clarity
feeling close
feeling comfortable
feeling committed
feeling compassionate
feeling complacent
feeling concerned
feeling confident
feeling conflicted
feeling confused
feeling connected
feeling considerate
feeling contented
feeling controlled
feeling convicted
feeling courageous
feeling curious
emotional
feelings, 4
This website holds the following emotion
and feelings words that begin with the letter, "d."
feeling deceived
feeling dedicated
feeling defeated
feeling defenseless
feeling defensive
feeling defiant
feeling degraded
feeling dejected
feeling demeaned
feeling demoralized
feeling in denial
feeling dependent
feeling depressed
feeling deprived
feeling desired
feeling despair
feeling desperation,
feeling desperate
feeling truly desperate
feeling detached
feeling determined
feeling devastated
feeling devious
feeling devoted
feeling dignified
feeling disappointed
feeling disconnected
feeling discontented
feeling discouraged
feeling disgusted
feeling dishonest
feeling disillusioned
feeling dismal
feeling disrespected
feeling dissatisfied
feeling distant
feeling distracted
feeling disturbed
feeling distressed
feeling doubtful
feeling dysfunctional
feeling
emotional, too
This website contains the emotion and feelings words that begin with the
letters "e" and "f".
feeling eager
feeling embarrassed
feeling empathetic
feeling empty
feeling encouraged
feeling enlightened
feeling enthusiastic
feeling envied -
feeling envious
feeling excited
feeling excluded
feeling exploited
feelings of failure
feelings of fairness
feeling faithful
feeling fearful
- 3 pages of fear
feeling fear in
different intensities i.e., scared, frightened, terrified
feeling fearless
feeling foolish
feeling forgiving
feeling forgotten
feeling fortunate
feeling frantic
feeling free
feeling friendly
feeling frustrated
feeling fulfilled
feeling generous
feeling gentle
feeling genuine
feeling giving
feeling grateful
feeling gratified
feeling grief, grieving
feeling guilty
feeling happy
feeling hatred
feeling helpful/helpless
feeling honest
feeling honored
feeling hopeful/hopeless
feeling hostile, feelings of hostility
feeling humble, feelings of humility
feeling humiliated
feeling hurt
feeling hysterical
feeling idealistic
feeling ignorant
feeling ignored
feeling impatient
feeling imperfect
feeling impulsive
feeling inadequate
feeling inattentive
feeling incapable
feeling independent
feeling indifferent
feeling inferior
feeling inhibited
feeling innocent
feeling insecure
feeling insensitive
feeling insignificant
feeling insulted
feelings of integrity
feeling intimate
feeling intimidated
feeling intolerant
feeling irrational
feeling irresponsible
feeling irritated
feeling isolated
feeling
emotional, 3
The emotion and feeling words that begin
with the letters, "J" - "k" - "l" - "m" and "n."
feeling jealous
feeling joyful
feeling judged or
judgmental
feeling justified
feeling kind
feeling liberated
feeling limited
feeling lonely
feeling loved -
3 pages of information concerning love
feeling manipulated
feeling mean
feeling melancholy
feeling melodramatic
feeling miserable
feeling misunderstood
feeling motivated
feeling naive
feeling needed,
needs, need, needy - 2 pages of this information
feeling negative
feeling neglected
feeling neurotic feeling numb
feeling
emotional
This is an old site, one of the few that took on the original growth spurt,
but is now still here - holding its own - and has some new emotions and feelings to be added onto. There are some articled
on some of the new pages, but watch for new info to be added all the time!
feeling obligated
feeling offended
feeling open
feeling optimistic
feeling overwhelmed
feeling passive
feeling passionate
feeling patient
feeling peaceful
feeling pessimistic
feeling pitiful
feeling possessive
feeling positive
feeling powerful/powerless
feeling pressured
feeling protected
feeling proud
feeling punished
feeling rageful
feeling rational
feeling realistic
feeling receptive
feeling recognized
feeling regretful
feeling rejected
feeling relaxed
feeling reliable
feeling relieved
feeling remorseful
feeling resentful
feeling resilient
feeling respected
feeling responsible
feeling revengeful
feeling
emotional, 5
This site came about because Tripod, the host of these free-sites, accidentally
deleted one of my sites called, "emotional feelings." I had to quickly change all the links on 30+ sites that went to emotional
feelings - and I'm afraid I haven't finished the job yet. But feeling emotional, 5 added a few more emotions and feelings
to the mix and is almost completed. Bear with me on the completion of the site please!
The following emotions and feelings are found at feeling emotional, 5.
feeling sad
feeling safe
feeling satisfied
feeling secure
feeling selfish
feeling sensitive
feeling serene
feeling serious
feeling shaken
feeling shameful
feeling shy
feeling sickened
feeling sincere
feeling slighted
feeling special
feeling stable
feeling stifled
feeling stubborn
feeling successful
feeling supported
feeling suspicious
feeling sympathetic
feeling tender
feeling thoughtful/thoughtless
feeling threatened
feeling tolerant
feeling tormented
feeling tranquil
feeling trapped
feeling traumatized
feeling trusted
feeling truthful
feeling understanding / understood
feeling validated
feeling valued
feeling victimized
feeling vindicated
feeling violated
feeling vulnerable
feeling wise/wisdom
feeling worthless/worthy
feeling wounded
your unemotional side
This site deals with words that begin with the two letters "un" before
an emotion or feeling. This site has the first half of the alphabet and the #2 site deals with the last half of the alphabet!
unable
unaccepted
unacknowledged
unaffectionate
unafraid
unanticipated
unappreciated
unavailable
unaware
unbalanced
unbelievable
unburdened
uncaring
uncertain
uncomfortable
uncommitted
unconcerned
undeserving
undesired
unemotional
unfair
unfaithful
unfeeling
unforgiving
unfortunate
unfriendly
unfulfilled
ungrateful
unhappy
unhealthy
uninhibited
unjust
unkind
your unemotional side, 2
unlimited feeling unloved feeling
unmotivated feeling unneeded feeling unpleasant feeling unprotected feeling unprovoked unrealistic feelings feeling
unreliable unrecognized feelings, feeling unrecognized unresolved feelings feeling unsafe feeling unsuccessful
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thank you for visiting the newest site of the emotional feelings network of sites -
"nurture 101"!!!!
be sure to make your way throughout the emotional feelings network of
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